At Somerville Intermediate we care about your health and wellbeing. We want you to be the best person you can be. We face many challenges in life and we want you to be resilient members of society. The links below can help us be the best we can be and give us strategies that we all need to become the best version of ourselves.

 

It's okay to reach out for help - never hesitate if you are concerned about yourself or someone else.

 

Youthline

https://www.youthline.co.nz/
Youthline is a support service for any questions you may have. If you don’t want to call they also have a many different advice pages on body, social, mind and beyond school issues.

Aunty Dee

https://www.auntydee.co.nz/

Aunty Dee is a free online tool for anyone who needs some help working through a problem or problems. It doesn’t matter what the problem is, you can use Aunty Dee to help you work it through.

The low down

https://thelowdown.co.nz/
The low down is a free help line that gives you straight up answers for those up and down moments in life.

What’s Up

https://www.whatsup.co.nz/
A safe place for you to talk about anything at all. If you don’t feel like talking their website also gives some amazing tips.

Kidsline

http://www.kidsline.org.nz/Home_312.aspx
A free calling support service for when you need to talk about your feelings and life in general.

 

Counsellor's Comments

Getting Along Together:
Developing Social Competence in Young Children


Childhood is a time for children to learn about the world and that includes learning how to get along with others. Parents play a crucial role in helping children figure out how to form satisfying relationships and develop into socially competent people. Social competence allows children to be cooperative and generous, express their feelings, and empathise with others. Please click here to read the full article.

Modelling Behaviour

Modelling the behaviour you want to encourage is the best way to help children develop socially. Every time you say "please" or lend a helping hand, you are showing your children how you would like them to act. Ask for your children's help with daily tasks, and accept their offers of help. Look for the things your children are doing right and find opportunities to comment on them. Praise can reinforce good behaviour, but it is equally important to help children recognise the sense of satisfaction that comes from within when they act on a generous impulse or get along well with others.

Sharing from the Heart

Good feelings about oneself and others is the root of social competency. Try to create a climate of kindness and generosity so that your children can help each other and begin to take responsibility for each other naturally. In this way they will begin to share "from the heart", not just because you want them to.

Talk with your children about being generous with each other. Point out that sharing and being considerate of feelings makes other people feel happy and makes them feel good too. You can encourage acts of generosity throughout the day and be generous yourself by providing enough satisfying experiences and materials for your children. In group settings, try to let young children use toys and materials until they feel ready to pass them on to someone else. Point out when a playmate has waited a long time to have a turn. Reward generous acts with words of praise.

Empathy, the ability to imagine what another person is feeling, is a very important concept for children to understand. You can foster empathy by talking about your own feelings ("That story made me sad"); helping children express their own feelings ("How did you feel when it started to rain and we had to leave the park?"); and encouraging them to listen to other people's feelings ("Let's ask Sonia how she felt when Sparky got lost.") Responding to the needs of children who have disabilities provides excellent opportunities for children to share from the heart. Keep in mind that the kindest thing children can do is to simply include others in their play.